THE OLD AND NEW VIRUS

When you see the title you might think that I am going to write about virus and other microorganisms. Well, that is not the case. Here, old and new virus refers to the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The host is of course, the son who stands in between. Basically when you take a virus, what does it do? It causes harmful diseases and at times leads to death. Same is the case with mother and daughter-in-laws. Both of them enter the life of the host and cause so many problems that the poor fellow will hate his life to the core. Why this happens? Can anyone tell me the reason? Why there is always a war going on between the old and new virus? Can’t they co-exist and lead a happy life. Here are some reasons. Let us take the first case – old virus.
Old virus (MIL) – They are indeed people who we must respect and try to understand. But the fact is, no matter how much you try to understand, you always end up misunderstanding them. They expect a lot from you which obviously you cannot fulfill. A MIL feels that she has the first priority over her son, which is true. But she forgets the fact that a wife is a second mother. So, when two mothers try to get attention, there comes the problem. They fight, argue, and drive the other person mad. You might ask me whether there is a solution for this, but the answer is “NO”. There is no solution and even God can’t put an end to this never ending problem.
There is a fact that might sound strange, but it’s the truth. A woman’s enemy is not a man, but another woman. I can guarantee you this. Men are intermediate people who can’t do anything when it comes to supporting the two people he loves the most. He wants them to live peacefully without fighting, but it does not happen. It may never happen. A MIL will start telling bad things about the daughter-in-law to almost everyone. This will irritate her and she will do the same thing towards her mother-in-law. Finally, they end up living separate lives like robots. They do not see each other and do not talk to each other. I am telling you that this is a perfect solution. If you do not like your mother-in-law and if you can’t live peacefully with her, better stay away from her. By this, you can at least let your hubby be at peace.
New virus (DIL) – When it comes to the new virus, things are a bit different. Her new life starts in a different house where she is not familiar with things. Especially, when it comes to MIL, she finds it very difficult to adjust with her. A Mil expects her to do things that she does not like. A dil trys to fit in and does not complain unless until it’s necessary. She patiently waits and waits and one fine day erupts like a volcano. This will definitely lead to disaster. She can’t control her anger and she lets it out on her MIL. The MIL on the other hand will start a pathetic drama to convince her son that the entire fault is on his wife.
She will start by telling things such as “Your wife is not respecting me”, “She is too proud and can’t adjust”, and “She is so money-minded”, etc. What can a son do? He can’t support his mother and also his wife. He has to pick a side. Either way, he will be in trouble. If he supports his mum, he will end up fighting with his wife and vice versa. Such things will lead only break a family apart. In this modern world, leading a life in a joint family is like walking on a knife. If you trip, you will be hurt. This mainly happens due to the generation gap.
The common issue – There is one common issue that most of the newly married couples face. It’s a baby. I really do not understand why all the people make it a big issue. Is there a hard and fast rule that a newly married should have a baby within a few months? Why? Can’t they have a baby after a few years? Why is it such a crime? Most of the couples have a baby just for the sake of others. What is the point in that? It’s your life and you have all the rights to decide things on your own. If you are not ready to become a parent, then do not think about it. Just enjoy your life and when you feel like starting a family, go for it. This is the only possible advice I can give to all the newly married couples.
People will never shut their mouths because it’s their habit. They get immense pleasure in poking their nose in matters that do not concern them. So, just ignore such people and lead a happy life. Your mother and wife are both like two sides of a coin. Without the two sides, a coin will be of no value. So keep this in mind and lead a happy life. God bless you all.

Why Love Fails?

Love is a very sweet and natural feeling. Many of us might have experienced it whereas there are others who are still to experience it. Whatever might be the case, it is still the same. There are cases where it ends up in pain and there are also cases where it gives everlasting life full of happiness. Why does this happen? Can anyone tell the reason? It is mainly because of our decisions. When a person listens to his/her mind, they think very clearly and they can act upon things that are essential in life. When someone listens to their heart, they can also be much brighter in life and come up to a good position, but they are prone to emotional attachments and heartbreaks. Most of the people in love get united in marriage whereas others part due to this society in which we live in. Either the boy and girl will be of different caste or they would have made a decision to part due to the compulsion of their parents. It is actually a very foolish thing to do.
Such people may say that they have indeed taken a good decision by marrying someone whom their parents choose. But according to me, they are the biggest losers in life. No matter what they say or what they do, that first love will always be in their heart and they can’t just like that forget it and lead a happy life. Even if you spend a lot of money, you cannot get back that time which you spend with your loved ones. I personally know many people who suffer daily in such hell. They can’t live happily because they can’t forget their love. It’s such a painful role to play. But in front of their parents, they will act as if they are very happy. What’s the use in that? And what happiness will that give? As for the youth nowadays, love has become like a game (not all youth only some). They do not know the seriousness of it and they take it for granted. With love comes responsibility. So when a person is in love, he must also be willing to face all the problems that come along with it. Only that succession will add meaning and depth to the love.

Just for the sake of parents or others, do not give up on the one who loves you because that pain has no cure. For all the youth out there, try to love with all your heart and accept your partner for who he/she really is. You cannot change a person’s individual characteristics. Its the way they are..You cannot be stubborn or egoistic when it comes to love. You have to understand and support your partner at all times. I think this is the solution for all the problems. Parents on the other hand must also think about the happiness of their sons/daughter instead of money and other caste related problems. What do parents gain by seeing their son/daughter in pain? How can you expect them to be happy when they sacrifice their love for your happiness? It’s not fair right? So I think this is the main problem why love fails. We have only one life to live and we have only one chance to make things right. So do what your heart tells you to do and lead a happy life. God bless you all.

Respect Others

I like to share some thoughts with you which are very essential in life. Its about respecting others. Do we respect our superiors? The answer for this will be “Yes”. We respect our superiors, higher officials, etc.. But do we respect those who are poor? The answer for this will be mostly “No”. We do not respect them. Why is it so? Just because they are poor doesn’t mean we have to treat them in a bad way. Aren’t they humans like us? Don’t they have feelings too? Why should we consider ourselves to be superior to them? Its not fair. We talk about racism in other countries. But what about our country, our home town, our workplace? Are we doing that to others? Why this discrimination?

Its very sad to see educated youngsters behaving in such manner. How will we feel if someone treats us bad and mocks us in front of others? It will pain right? Likewise, it is the same for even others. So please dear friends, try to avoid doing such things. God doesn’t categorize between rich and poor so why should we do it then? Try to show love and compassion to your fellow beings. There is nothing wrong in treating others in good way. If we show compassion to the poor, God will surely bless us. No matter how much you earn or what type of job you are in, you have to respect others. Please make it a point and respect the poor and needy. God bless you all.

If only I knew

Life is a never ending journey. We climb mountains or fall down the pit a couple of times. Life is beautiful but it can also be very painful. Whatever maybe the case we have to accept it.  This poem expresses the pain a person goes through when they part someone they care a lot about . It can be their friends, relatives, and so on..

I cant forget
The day you fought
I sincerely regret
For breaking your heart
If only I knew
That you were to kiss death
I would have never ever left you
And would have been with you instead
Many days have passed by
Since you left me here
I often look up to the sky
Hoping that you would smile from there
The places that we went
The lovely time spent
And all that is blue
Reminds me only of you
Without you by my side
The Earth seems to stop spinning
All my happiness died
Tell me dear, how can I keep going?
Even tough you hurt me
I always wanted you to be happy
Why is that you couldn’t see?
How much you really meant to me
What did I do wrong?
Is my love for you not that strong?
You could have killed me
Rather than leaving me
Its sad that I don’t have a choice
To listen to your sweet voice
And to see that radiant smile
For just one last time
My only priceless treasure
Is your love which is beyond measure
Your love is my destiny
And I will keep loving you for all eternity

God knows what is best

Hi friends,
Today let me share something which happened in my life. I was working for a reputed company in a good post for nearly 3 years. I was very happy with the way things were going in my life. One fine day everything just changed. I was given a hike which made many of my co-workers little upset as I was very younger and I got the post within a short period of time. So after that things did not go that well. They often used to fight with me for unwanted reasons and they avoided me. I was shocked but I could not do anything about it. Then my work pressure also increased. It was very hectic. I could not take it anymore. Finally, one fine day I quit from the job. It was the most painful thing I had ever experienced cause I loved the job so much and I did not expect things to turn out that way. For one month after coming out from there, I was lifeless. I missed my friends, the lovely time I spent with them. I was questioning God why this happened. The answer for this came very shortly. I got a new job and I am now very comfortable and happy. Maybe this is why God had let this happen. I also contact my friends from the previous job. Now they understand about me and they also apologized for hurting me. Now I am happy with it. God knows what is best for you. If things don’t turn out the way you want them, just be cool cause God is making you wait for a reason. God will make u shine. Trust in him. God bless you all

Hurt + forgiveness

Many of us humans find it very easy to hurt others. Some apologize and feel for it whereas others take it for granted that they can hurt people and walk away as if nothing had happened. In my life, I have seen many such people. For them, hurting others is like eating chocolates. They enjoy doing it so much that they do not think that it is wrong. I am trying to understand such people but I am not able to.
Why do people hurt others? I feel that, its one way of showing their anger, discomfort or pain which they cant show to their family. But certain group of people hurt others just because it makes them feel happy. Is it good? No, of course not. We must never hurt others. This is what all religions teach us. And we must also remember that ” As we sow, so shall we reap”. If we hurt others, we will in turn be hurt by someone else.
The pain we feel when people hurts us is so immense that we cannot come out of it even after a long time. If affects us both physically and mentally. We feel sad, disappointed and irritated. We cant concentrate on our work and we cant come up in our life. But we should not hurt them back. Forgiving them is the biggest punishment that you can ever give to them.
When someone hurts you, try to control your anger/sadness. Say to them these things. “Its OK that you have hurt me. Are you feeling happy by hurting me like this? I thank God that I was able to give you this happiness. God bless you.” After you say this with a smile, the person who hurt you, will definitely feel bad that they have hurt such a nice person like you. Though they may not show it out, but in their heart, they will definitely feel bad.
Always have in mind that God is watching everyone. Maybe bad people will get all the pleasures in life and be happier than you but its all not for long. A time will come for them to answer the Eternal judge. Till then, we can only ask God to forgive them and bless them.
For all the people out there, who have been hurt very badly by others, what I am saying is.
Please do not worry. The people who hurt you will definitely realize their mistakes and apologize to you for their behavior. Have this in mind and put your burden on God. He is the only comfort. God bless you all.

How to lead a happy married life

Hello friends,
Today let me share with you a few thoughts about marriage..Some say its a blessing whereas others say its a curse. But according to me, it all depends on how you take it..I often hear wives telling, “My husband does not care about me..After reaching office, he never calls me nor asks me what am doing, etc..” And husbands on the other hand tell this way ” My wife keeps bugging me by calling at office hours asking whether I had lunch or what time I will reach home, etc..”..In both the cases, there are mistakes..I will explain that..

Women:
As everyone knows, women are very sensitive by nature, but not everyone, only 80% are like that..Its not a bad thing that they are sensitive. They expect their husband to keep talking to them updating them on what he does..Its what every woman expects from her husband..Its not that they want to bug them at office hours, its just that they care about them so much..

Men:
Men are not as sensitive as women..Its my opinion.. They do care and love their wives, but they do not know how to show it out..This is what I think leads to problem..What they have to do is call their wives at least during lunch hours and talk to them..So this will put this problem of “Not caring” to an end..

There are other issues too.. Women say “My husband does not understand my feelings..He never speaks to me lovingly nor shares his problems with me..If I try to help him, he does not accept my advice..” Men on the other hand say ” My wife knows that I am in problem but she keeps asking me what it is ..Its really annoying, I do not want to tell them to her..Cause I think, I am matured enough to handle things by myself..”

So friends, its purely a difference of opinion..My guide to have a happy married life is as follows..
For women:

1. First, try to study your husband’s character..What are his likes and dislikes.

2. When your husband is not calling you during office hours, you will have to understand that he is not avoiding you..Its just that he is held up in some tight work..

3. If your husband is not ready to disclose any problems to you, leave him free…Then finally, when he thinks, he cant solve the problem, he will come to you..So please wait patiently in that case.

4. Treat your husband like your friend..Try to make him tell you everything..Even if he does anything to hurt you, please do not yell or make it big. Just tell him that you will support him all the time.

5. When both of you are having a fight, try to the extent to discuss about the problem calmly rather than arguing about it…

For Men

1. The main thing you have to understand about your partner is that they expect you to show that love and care..Its not enough if you have it within you..Make sure you show it to her by talking to her lovingly, taking her out for dinner or getting gifts.

2. When your wife is asking you about your day at office, feel free to talk to her instead of telling “I am tired, I do not want to discuss about it”

3. As I said earlier, women are sensitive, so do not hurt them..You also must adjust according to the situation as you cant expect women to always obey what you say..They too have feelings, right? so you must respect those feelings..

4. Marriage is a blessing..Think of your wife as your friend..don’t do anything that she does not like..Only for time being, later make her understand that you too have likes and dislikes..

5. Never argue constantly as it will only get worse..Think that you guys are made for each other..Try to be cool and make marriage a success..

FATE

Fate is the master of all games,
It plays the games well,
Making others cry is its motive,
Oh! fate! why is that u are so bad?
What sin did I do to you?
Why is that u always make me sad?
People who are happy are only a few
And I know that I am not one among them
You made me believe that life is beautiful
You gave me so many hopes
But the truth is that life is painful
And now I realize that my hopes were all jokes
Which u played cunningly
And cruelly
You took away my happiness and peace
And gave miseries which will never ever cease
Bring back to me my lost love
I want to have it now
Don’t u see that life is very sweet?
And its not something to be stamped with your feet
Will I ever get my love again?
Or is it that I should always have this pain?
You should show me the path
or kill me by your wrath
I have nothing left to live for
As everything I loved left me with a deep incurable scar
Before I part
I want u to feel my heart
So that at least others can have happiness
And not emptiness
You won in this cruel game
But please never play this game with anyone again
I say this last
With my broken heart…….

The Departed

Silent memories of the past
Haunting my thoughts
As alone in the dark I sit
Waiting for a candle to be lit
Will God ever show mercy upon me?
Or is this my fate ever meant to be?
My rays of hopes are fading
For I know that this story has no happy ending
My love left me with a pain
But I am still waiting to be loved again
Your memories are my only comfort
Like a medicine to cure my heart
The days we spent together
Remains as new as ever
You are now not mine
And can never be till the end of time
What happened to you my love?
Why did you leave me now?
Your love made my life beautiful
But this parting is very painful
Don’t you remember the days we spent together?
Wont you come back to be my love forever?
You seem to be sleeping like a prince in your coffin
Not knowing that there is a heart weeping for your loss
Is love a sin?
And is this the price that everyone should pay at last?
Though you left me in this cruel world,
I am still living with you in my dreams
Life without you is a misery untold
As there are no words to express my silent screams
I now pray to God on my knees
For my sweet love to rest in peace.